Sometimes it is necessary to purge people from your life. Although not with bad intentions there are those who have poison in their own life that can infect you and deter you from your proper calling in life. They hid their emotional wounds but they appear nevertheless in the actions and reactions they do. This doesn’t mean they always have to remain absent, but that is something you decide at the right moment.
“We are damaged people thrown together”
“It is important to keep in mind, if you need to purge or remove individuals from your life or if you are pushing away out of fear. Fear is a product of the ego, and sometimes when we encounter people who hurt our egos we fear them and ultimately push away. Be sure to know the difference before cutting anyone from your life.”
Sometimes it is necessary to remove yourself from those situations that are unhealthy, hurtful and painful. If addicted to these places of harm, we cannot truly see the damage until it is either too late or we have long removed ourselves from these situations. There are those who show us a place we can tend to bring ourselves down to. We start to share their personal hell, and it becomes our own.
“I looked into her eyes, and they said RUN!”
When in any type of relationship that hurts more than common the case is that one feels more for one than the other, this is the addict vs. supplier or pusher scenario. Meaning if you love me I will do anything for you, just give me a little hit of your love or emotion. This is imbalance. Love or devotion to a relationship is a shared responsibility, when there is imbalance it is wise to remove yourself from that situation, more than often it will become if already not hurtful for both involved.
“We attract the same vibrations of energy we give out.” If you know you’re not ready for a relationship the people you attract will not be ready. If you are in a deep dark place in your life you will attract the same people who are in the same deep dark place to your life. If you want to love, yet you know nothing of it, you too will attract the same, someone who wants it however knows little. Just like courage which you only have after you have faced your fears. Like love you will only attract someone to teach you to love once you have taught yourself to love.
“Sometimes I try, others times I cry.”
In my opinion opposites who attract will last longer. Do you really want to date yourself? There are commonalities that attract lovers, but in the long run would you rather have a friend who will teach you something new? Or teach you what you already know? I have been blessed with the women in my life who although we shared many things in common we were complete opposites. These are the lovers I learned the most from. Durability however is not based off of this rather the ability to communicate, share, open yourself, and truth. A lifemate is someone you can share your darkest secret with and they don’t blink, they love you for just the way you are.
Sometimes you try and try again with people and although they have claimed to changed in your eyes te you they haven’t. Their routine and reactions have only be refined and it doesn’t matter what you call them they are the same.
There seems to be a trend, more and more people are single longer in their life. Fifty years ago couples got married, women average age of 20, and men 23, yet now people do not get married till their 30’s often late 30’s. Can it be said that the extremist feminist movement has left a lot of women independent yet alone and the explosion in porn and sex industry has left men in a continuous search for perfect piece of ass? Have the roles changes so dramatically that men are more domesticated than women. The perfect example of this is, I grew up in the kitchen with my abuela, I know how to cook, yet everyone woman I know, with the exception of my mom, these days know nothing of cooking. Wasn’t the idea of feminist equality to have shared responsibility and equal treatment? Yet why are we so off balance?
Sometimes you express yourself with the best of intentions and hurt people whom unknowingly how to react to what you express. They turn something so simple into something so complex i.e. “a crush”.
“The one who has the crush can complicate a crush by placing an expectation on the crush or the outcome.”
Although you don’t want to hurt those whom you need to distance yourself from, it is inevitable. They will ultimately feel a sense of abandonment and want to blame you for their hurt and perhaps you are in some way responsible, however if it feels unhealthy to you then you have to look after yourself. Distance over time can only heal, if done without the ego.
“Don’t justify or excuse yourself to no one.”
Sometimes we just need to be alone and do things alone. There is a difference between loneliness and being alone.
If you work in a professional environment then you should know work ethic, meaning you do not date those in the work place. If it doesn’t work out then you have created an uncomfortable work environment. The same ethic is applied to friends. Don’t date friends of friends, if it doesn’t work out then you have created odd feeling in what once was a sacred space called “friendship”. Unless the both of you agree from day one you will be getting married, then umm, use your best judgment. Now that I think about it, umm, fucking Portuguese!
“You can rent the space inside my mind, at least until the price comes to high.”
Sometimes you give so much there is nothing left to give, and you both feel you did everything you could, even though it is not true. Even though there are sometimes one gives more than the other, the other still feels like they gave it everything. Perhaps they did, at that moment.
“Words left unspoken left us so brittle there was so little left to give.”
You can burn all the photos, letters, trinkets, and delete all the emails. You remove everything material about the other person, yet... You change your address, buy new cloths, and learn something new, yet… The things that will always remain in both of you are feelings and emotions that brought you together. No matter if it were a lover, friend, or something simple as a glance across a busy subway train. Love tattoos your soul, which is the one thing you cannot remove or cover up. I once read that love is like fire, it will either keep you warm or burn down your house, yet I disagree with this. Love is an element all unto itself. As I have said before, love doesn’t hurt or burn, people do. We have complete control whether it warms us or burns our house down.